Usually when we think of our involvements with those we love, we think in terms of closeness with these people, not distance from them. And in fact, the underlying dynamics of any human relationship is based on that somewhat magical attraction which pulls us closer and closer to someone special we have found in the world.
But as we continue to grow closer and closer, there always comes a point in our relationship where an optimum closeness has been reached, at least for the time being – and if we continue to come closer still, we generate a constrictive, suffocating emotional involvement which is not healthy for the relationship at all.